The New York Times | Fiona Apple Faces Outward
In Ms. Apple’s new songs she is no longer a self-righteous victim. “A lot of my earlier songs are blaming other people and never thinking that I ever did anything wrong, because I was always trying to be completely loyal and honest and pure,” she said. “It’s so nice to come to a place where you can see how you absolutely enabled all these things to happen. It makes you stop being angry at people. It makes you start being more empathetic.”
Ms. Apple has been reading about neural pathways in the brain. “What fires together wires together. If you keep on having these negative thoughts or being angry all the time, then that area of your brain is going to get stronger,” she said.
So she’s trying to “feel everything” from a different angle. “Even when now there have been times that I’ve just felt so, so bad,” she said, “I can take myself out of it for a moment and go: ‘You watch, you’ve felt this way before, you’re going to feel great again. And then you’re going to feel terrible again, and then you’re going to feel great again.’ And when you’re feeling this way, at least know that there’s value in it — just as much value in your suffering as in your pleasure.”
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what was high school like for lizzie mcguire though
like
she goes home after impersonating an italian pop star and half of her class and like the rest of the world saw that she can sing and perform
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I’m actually quite excited. The only kids in my group are going to be my sis and her best friend. I’ve never met her friend before, but I know how important best friends are(throughout your life) and particularly in your preteen years.
We’re going to Strawbery Banke, which is super cool and historical and ACTUAL SUPER OLD HOUSES AND CLOTHES AND PEOPLE REENACTING DAILY LIFE IN THE EARLY 1800s. I eat that shit up. It’s like an Old Sturbridge Village, just in NH. Apparently, it’s quite a big place, so if we’re allowed to go freely with our groups, I am totally making sure I see as much as I can with my sis and her friend.
I know kids don’t like to spend too long with boring, non-hands on exhibits. Like, I remember getting antsy while my parents would stop to read plaques and ooh and ahh at stuff in museums, when I was so already done looking at the authentic butter churn or whatever the fuck. I’ll make sure I only read the plaques for stuff I’m SUPER interested in, and if they want, we’ll go as fast as possible. BECAUSE I WANT TO SEE ALL THE THINGS.
WOOO HISTORICAL SITES ARE MY FAVE.
AND THERE’S GONNA BE FASHION EXHIBITIONS THROUGHOUT THE EXHIBITS. OMG CLOTHES. OLD clothes! EEE!
I have to get up at 7:30, though, but I’ll totally manage.
A smiling man wearing only close-fitting underwear pulls an arm-length glove off the hands of a woman seated near him.
I love this fun picture! It was suggested by Wendy Blackheart, who wrote:
I like the playful tug of war that seems to be going on with her gloves. At the edge of the photo, you can see the girl laughing, and the boy seems to enjoy it as well.
I find that when I’m truly having fun, I rarely think about what’s just happened or what’s to come next, and that’s the impression I get from this photograph. It’s kind of wonderful that there are no clues as to whether these models’ playtime is just beginning or if it’s coming to a close. The part of this image that provides the most insight, to me, is the fact that the man is wearing leather cuffs, but only his left wrist is buckled into the restraint while the other buckle dangles loosely at his side; they’re letting the toys be just toys.
The fact that both models are obviously having a good time makes it easy to engage with the activity—whatever it is—depicted here. It’s in our nature to enjoy seeing other people happy and, despite the misguided pathologizing beliefs many folks hold about sadomasochists, this basic principle of human empathy is no different for us than for people who like to fuck differently. Indeed, if you’re not enjoying yourself, then it’s probably time to go find something else you will enjoy.
Sex, just like the rest of life, is supposed to be fun. If it’s not, then it’s up to you to make it fun. Not only are you missing out on great sex if you don’t, you’re not doing your sex partner any favors by pretending to be enjoying yourself when you’re not.
chagrin:Photo by Valeria Lazareva
The commentary is nice and all that, of course, it’s great.
But this picture is legitimately HOT to me. UNNFFF. The way he’s smiling, shirtless, and pulling off the glove with his teeth. I don’t consider myself even THAT, that interested in BDSM, but stuff like this is very appealing.
Shut the fuck up RIGHT NOW with your flawlessness.
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i think smiles are the sexiest no matter what.
Lovin it.
It’s so much more fun looking when people are smiling. All the pics with the people all looking upset and stuff make me feel ick.
I tell Tall-dude sometimes how I like to pretend that we’re Beyonce and Jay-Z.
He just looks at me like I’m delusional.
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My favorite makeup for Halloween/New Year’s Eve/Whenever I damn well please is glitter dabbed on my eyelids. I have yet to get like the fancy, legit glitter pots, though. I also have a hard time keeping it from spreading all over my face.
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mypy:
I remember that i used to wear this xD
I wasn’t allowed to wear body glitter very often. I was sad about it.
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